If you want a HAPPY ending

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And WE STILL TOGETHER!

If you want a happy ending; that depends, of course, on where you stop the story. ~Orson Welles

What gauges the success of a relationship? Is eternity the only ruler for a happy union? What about the relationships that go the distance, but spend the golden years in misery? -Think David Allen Grier and Kim Wayans trying to kill each other on ‘In Living Color”… But they were “still together”.

Is it ok to stick together, just because? Just so you can say we’re “still together”. It doesn’t matter that you secretly have wished your mate body harm for the last seven of your ten-year union? Have separate bedrooms been the only way to keep the peace in your relationship? I beg to argue that this is NOT a relationship. Tolerating someone does not a healthy relationship make. If more people stopped to communicate with their mates; there would be less dysfunctional/adversarial relationships.

So many relationships would go down into history as a success, if people would get out while the getting is good. What if everything, even good things, is meant to end? Every story an intro, body, and conclusion? Some relationships should simply end in the brown nose phase. You know, the part of the relationship where neither one of you can do any wrong in the other’s eyes. Every day is made of gumdrops and jelly beans, and you are happier than you’ve ever been; that is until you find out he is a serial dater, has ten kids he doesn’t claim and might still be married in Arizona.

But, online stalking aside, time is the only measure for finding the true person you pledge to spend part or all of your future with. Time is the only way to get to the root of someone’s crazy. Once you see who you are truly involved with, maybe some relationships have reached the end of the road.

Just some food for thought… How long should you give a relationship after it sours? How long should you wait before you decide the personality that you’ve seen daily truly belongs to your mate? How long should you try to repair a broken union? Should you stay because you have pledged “forever”?

Maybe sometimes WE should STOP the story while there is still a HAPPY ENDING…

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  • Ashley

    This is pretty thought provoking a lot of good questions were touched on. I especially like the end about stopping the story while there is still a happy ending. Sometimes that really is the best thing you can do.

    • http://www.toyclosetnyc.com Janine

      Thanks! Janine, ToyClosetNYC.com

  • http://twitter.com/QueeninHeels Queen in Heels (@QueeninHeels)

    I am a firm believer in being happy and sometimes that means walking away from a relationship even, one that a vow was made. Being in a relationship just for the sake of being in one or even for the children or because you are trying to please others is the worse thing anyone can do. I made the this choice myself many years ago and regardless of what anyone may think, it was the best decision I made.

    • http://www.toyclosetnyc.com Janine

      Thanks! Pretty Sexy, Janine

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