Is Social Media Ruining Your Relationship?

It might be ruining mine.  Between the posts to write, the posts to answer for various sites; it is A LOT of work.  But, for me, it is just that; WORK.  I wake up and immediately check my Facebook and Twitter.

I am probably a biased source because I did not and do not currently have any personal social media accounts.  The appeal of re-connecting with the boy who pulled my hair in the second grade is lost on me.  I do THRIVE on what social media does for my business.  Every single activity I participate in on FB or Twitter; from liking a post, leaving a comment or a simple retweet is an advertisement for my business. 

I do recognize the dark side, no humor intended, in social media.  Your man/woman has access to private and sometimes explicit groups on Facebook, where they can be completely “cyber single”.  There is limitless access to inappropriate situations and interactions.

How far is too far? A flirtatious tweet, a visit to an “adult group”, or cyber relations; none of these things are ok for me.  But, how would I know that my mate was partaking in these activities if I wasn’t stalking his page?  Each relationship has its own boundaries.  As for me and my house, I’ll give you enough rope to hang yourself.  If you look for dirt, you end up in the mud.  I’m not searching your friends, combing through pictures, or playing inspector timeline.  I trust until given a reason not to.

I would be leery of my mate’s excessive involvement in social media.  Social media will be just as harmful as the two people in the relationship allow it to be.  In a situation involving inappropriate behavior on social media, I don’t think it’s the social media to blame.  A man or woman who is a cheater will find a way to cheat regardless.  If they’re not cheating online, they’ll cheat at work, at church, with the neighbor, etc.  People are who they are.  I think blaming social media is unfair.  If you respect your relationship, then no level of temptation should cause you to stray.  So, my advice for any relationship suffering from problems with this issue is to examine the root of the problem.  I guarantee there is a deeper problem, i.e. boredom, lack of communication, sexual dissatisfaction, etc.

Now if we want to talk about iPhone apps ruining a relationship, count me in.  My name is Janine and I’m an addict!Until next time,

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